In the h/c genre I think the answer why we like them hurt is obvious: we like them comforted. Throughout my short life I have been hurt far too many times, and I've rarely received the comfort I've needed. So, basically, I like the genre because it makes me feel comforted as well.
When it comes to the s/M scene, things get more complicated. In real life, some of the answers are simple - how your body can actually find pleasure in pain etc etc. Besides that - s/M is about control. The dom, so to speak, has, for once, all the control in the world, while the sub can, for once, truly let go, s/he doesn't *need* to be in control of anything, s/he knows nothing bad will happen, because the dom won't hurt him/her too badly. This, I think, most people find truly liberating.
Apart from that, fanfic writers are just people. They experience a lot in life; everyone does. And when they hurt, it's sometimes *so easy* to take it all out on character that, even when we're talking about RPS, are fictional to us. It's a way of re-living that pain, going through it and looking for peace of mind.
I also enjoy the concept of being "stretched to the limit", like, where the sub is given precisely as much as s/he can take and is then allowed to rest. I think it maybe reminds me of situations where people ask me almost too much - but unlike me, the character I play with gets satisfaction out of the whole thing.
Hmm, so, as you can see, this is mostly me analysing myself =) And since I'm not at my most coherent, it might not make much sense... And I think it shows that I grew up in a family where psychology was a part of the daily diet. :)
As for why they are pretty when they're broken - well...pain is something fundamental, something *real*, isn't it? It is physical in the same sense that sex is physical. I think this is the link between them. Also, say someone has an icon where they're favourite celebrity is bleeding - it also gives us fangirls certain power over them that we would never have in real life.
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Date: 2004-09-14 04:50 am (UTC)When it comes to the s/M scene, things get more complicated. In real life, some of the answers are simple - how your body can actually find pleasure in pain etc etc. Besides that - s/M is about control. The dom, so to speak, has, for once, all the control in the world, while the sub can, for once, truly let go, s/he doesn't *need* to be in control of anything, s/he knows nothing bad will happen, because the dom won't hurt him/her too badly. This, I think, most people find truly liberating.
Apart from that, fanfic writers are just people. They experience a lot in life; everyone does. And when they hurt, it's sometimes *so easy* to take it all out on character that, even when we're talking about RPS, are fictional to us. It's a way of re-living that pain, going through it and looking for peace of mind.
I also enjoy the concept of being "stretched to the limit", like, where the sub is given precisely as much as s/he can take and is then allowed to rest. I think it maybe reminds me of situations where people ask me almost too much - but unlike me, the character I play with gets satisfaction out of the whole thing.
Hmm, so, as you can see, this is mostly me analysing myself =) And since I'm not at my most coherent, it might not make much sense... And I think it shows that I grew up in a family where psychology was a part of the daily diet. :)
As for why they are pretty when they're broken - well...pain is something fundamental, something *real*, isn't it? It is physical in the same sense that sex is physical. I think this is the link between them. Also, say someone has an icon where they're favourite celebrity is bleeding - it also gives us fangirls certain power over them that we would never have in real life.
Hmm. Feel free to disagree on anything!